The "cold" violent man in Love, how to break?

The "cold" violent man in Love, how to break?

In the process of emotional development, women are often on the passive side, and they are eager to get the active and passionate pursuit of men rather than their initiative to seize the emotional compass.

Because in the eyes of such women, "whoever makes contact loses." She sees bonding as a win-lose game.

Relationships need to connect and respond to each other. If only a person blindly pays, the other side is always in a passive state. After a long time, the person who initiated contact will also get tired and choose to give up.

So intelligent women face men do not contact. The best way is not too cold refrigeration, waiting for him to get you, but to take the initiative, seize the initiative.

1. One of the initiatives: Create a crisis, "second attraction."

Most women who have just broken up with a man do not have contact, wild thoughts, not calm, hot faces, stick cold butts. Even if the feelings come back to the beginning, it is not too much Love for you but "sympathy, guilt."

Intelligent women don't lie to themselves. When a man doesn't initiate contact, the best thing to do is to try to create a sense of distance, trigger a sense of crisis, and catch his eye again.

In the TV drama Thirtysomething, Zhong Xiaoqin and Chen Yu choose to divorce due to various conflicts in their lives but are forced to live under the same roof for practical reasons.

Originally Chen Yu was full of shortcomings of their ex-wife, but the two people separated over this period of time let him change. When he found that someone had been chasing his ex-wife, the original dismissive Chen Yu appeared in the sense of crisis.

In this distance, he began to find the loveliness of his ex-wife, saw the fragile side that he had never seen before, and fell in Love with his wife again. Finally, they resolved the misunderstanding and chose to remarry, and returned to the right track in life.

When a man does not contact, do not beg each other to come back, but learn to value themselves, and let each other have a sense of crisis, naturally can attract each other's attention.

2. Take the initiative # 2: Learn to cut your losses

When the relationship between the real efforts to pursue but fruitless, in fact, you should learn to stop losses in time.

"You pass through my World," the book says: "You can never wake up a fool."

A man who really does not love you, no matter what kind of skills you use to save, also always can not save each other.

Its self struggling in the mire, deeper and deeper, it is better to stop the loss in time, let the other side also help itself, in the face of the man's not contact, choose to lay down the body to beg, lose a woman's self-esteem, will also let Love become cheap.

Love is like a kite. When met can not pull the line of the kite, as soon as the wind comes to, learn to let go, so that is the best choice for each other.

3. Take the Initiative # 3: Love is not bigger than life

Zhang Xiaoxian once said: "Love is not the whole of life. Life is not only Love."

Love is to adjust the product, is to increase the value of happiness in life, not the whole life, and really beautiful Love is actually a kind of icing on the cake state, with true Love is the best, no love is not sad, this is the state of independent women.

Life is to miss the arrangement of God, miss the wrong to meet the right, not be troubled by the failure of Love, not give up the right to love and be loved, over the hill, must be beautiful, and there is always a person will break into your life, for your happiness.